Motherhood. One word. One simple word. Yet it is the hardest thing I have ever attempted in my life. I say “attempting” because I am so far from perfect and I am still trying to figure all of this out. There are days when I feel like I’ve got a handle on it. Then there are the other 323 days that are well……Picture this, it’s a game of dodge-ball and I am the ONLY target! Arguments, tears, laughter, highs and lows, it’s all being thrown at me. Sometimes more than one at a time, and it’s up to me to distinguish the lows and be present in the highs. It isn’t as easy as it sounds. I love being a mom, but never did I believe it would be this hard. Hard is both good and bad.
On those days I have “figured it out” I learned a thing or two…
- Be patient with your little humans, even if some are bigger than you, like mine.
- Take a time out. Sometimes when one or two of us are having bad days and we keep clashing; it’s bound to be a rough ride. Breaks give me clarity.
- Redirect the situation. As moms we have to be willing to be flexible. This was tough for me. I would usually try to stick it out as long as I could until I got so frustrated I’d stop all together. Once I notice things are getting heated I start planning my next move. This is usually a win.
- LOVE THEM. STOP, hug your babies, ask them how their day was, invite them to make dinner with you, spend time with them, send them texts (if they are old enough), anything at all as long as they are feeling the love.
I do all of those things, but not without effort. Not without fails. Not without triumph. When my day is filled with household chores ( let’s be honest that’s full-time alone), doctors appointments, or a screaming child in a school drop off line ( that’s a whole other blog) because he’s decided he hates public school, I have to remind myself to stop and take a breath. To remember that no matter how crazy they make me, these are my babes and no matter good or bad days they will KNOW I love them. You will never have a day bad enough you cannot love your children. I promise you that. The rest will wait.
Motherhood. Not so simple anymore. 100% worth it. Make the effort.